In the game of baseball, which I’m using as an analogy for life, players hit foul balls for several reasons. One of which is TIMING where we swing too early Batter’s Up! (Part 1), or too late Batter’s Up! (Part 2). In this post, let us now explore the second reason: AIM!
Poor aim is another reason why we hit foul balls when handling situations. Swinging too high, or grazing the top of the ball, ultimately drives the ball into the ground causing it to bounce in immeasurable amount of directions. Swinging too low causes the ball pop straight up into the air (which is almost a sure OUT!) How does this equate to handling life’s situations? Well, swinging too high OR low in my mind could mean overreacting or not working towards solutions when handling a situation.
To overreact, by definition, means to respond more emotionally or forcibly than is justified. It also implies acting irrationally or disproportionately. We could call this panicking, acting without full knowledge of the context of the situation (pre-judging), and making snap decisions. However we define it, we can see how detrimental this could be to our lives, relationships, and actions.
One way we, as humans, overreact is in fear and anger. Yes, the wonder twins! Fear causes us to do the most amazing things. We often don’t look at this way, but fear will cause us to punish others for our own contentment. For example, one may say, “I fear being hurt by you so I will push you away or keep you at a safe distance, thereby ruining our relationship or stunting its growth.” Or, “I fear that you will disobey and/or get hurt so I will become overzealous and control you to keep you in check.” Fear manifest itself in many unconscious ways.
Anger, which could be a by-product of fear in some instances, causes us to react without thinking. In anger we say things that we don’t mean (or do we?–out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks!! [Luke 6:45]—>that’s a whole other post!). In anger our motives change and we act in ways that we would not ordinarily act. There is nothing wrong with anger. It is the negative corresponding action that takes place out of that anger that gets us into trouble.
Working without a solution or goal in mind is a waste of time. Rehashing information and mulling over the details does not bring things to a close. They may, at most, exacerbate the situation more than necessary.
Overacting in fear and anger will drive the ball (situation) into the ground and spur a chain of events that could potentially bounce and hit is in the face–causing even more unintended damage. Be careful of Swinging to High! Be prepared, keep your eye on the ball, and make a connection and drive toward a solution.
Renew Your Mind
Cease from anger and forsake wrath; fret not yourself—it tends only to evildoing. (Psalms 37:8)
But the fruit of the [Holy] Spirit [the work which His presence within accomplishes] is love, joy (gladness), peace, patience (an even temper, forbearance), kindness, goodness (benevolence), faithfulness, Gentleness (meekness, humility), self-control (self-restraint, continence). Against such things there is no law [[a]that can bring a charge]. (Galatians 5:22-23)